
Kids Psychology
How to Build Self-Confidence in Kids?
Due
to the sports festival, there was a lot of rush of children and their parents
in the stadium, interesting sports competitions were going on among the
children and a break was announced for the purpose of relaxation. During this
time a program of poems and songs was started to keep the children active. The children
were invited to come and sing their favorite poems or songs. However, due to
the presence of hundreds of families, the children were hesitant to start.
6-year-old girl “Zahra” looked at her parents, smiled, and asked to perform. The
parents happily agreed. Zahra enthusiastically
approached the host who was inviting the children to poems or songs.
Zahra
started reciting the poem 'Chand Meri Zameen Phool Mera Watan' in front of
hundreds of people in a confident and good voice, although she did not remember
it well, she performed. This lack was due to her 'self-confidence'. She completed
the songs and became the source of inspiration for other children.
What is Self-confidence?
Self-confidence
is actually a basic motivator for children, helping them to move forward at
different times in life, to face difficulties and to set an example for others.
There
is a lot of talk about self-confidence, but there is usually very little
discussion about it, especially in the context of children, ignoring its
meaning and significance. Self-confidence means 'personal impression', that is,
'we are about ourselves'. What do I think and feel? It is these thoughts and
feelings that give a person self-confidence or a sense of inferiority.
As
children get older, they begin to form opinions about themselves from the words
and attitudes of others. The important thing is that the words and attitudes of
the parents are most effective in forming the opinions of the children. Whether
the baby is on its lap, on its knees or on the verge of adolescence, emotions
such as love and affection are the most important pillars for building
self-confidence, it is up to you to give your child self-confidence.
How to recognize self-confidence?
Children's
reactions to different situations and events can indicate whether or not
children have self-confidence. Its contradictory is lack of self-confidence, which
has the following consequences in the personality of a kid.
- Avoiding new and unfamiliar experiences and situations
- Lack of confidence in your abilities
- Being unnecessarily influenced by others
- Getting upset quickly
- Being defensive and afraid of criticism
- Changing your appearance frequently
- Avoid social activities
Signs of Self-confidence
Here
are a few signs of self-confidence, which should be there in the personality of
your children.
- Welcoming new and unfamiliar experiences and situations
- Be satisfied with own abilities and tasks
- Learning from mistakes
- Accepting positive criticism
- Be confident in all the circumstance
Effect of Self-confidence on Kids
Self-confidence
helps children in a variety of contexts and spheres, such as their behavior,
their personal energy, and their ability to cope with peer pressure, as well as
their learning, personal, and emotional well-being. It is also important for
physical development and creativity. Moreover, it is not possible to set goals,
reach them, make decision-making and solve problems without self-confidence.
How Can Parents & Teachers Instill Self-confidence in Kids
The
first step towards self-confidence is to create an environment of love and
care, through which the foundation can be laid to improve the child's 'personal
impression', for which the following 4 important things need to be done.
1- Respectful relationship
Self-confidence
is actually the name of self-respect and personal value. The most important
thing you can do as a parent or a teacher is to give yourself and your children
respect. Also show genuine interest in the child, such as asking the child for
an opinion on various issues at home/school, respecting his opinion, even if it
is against you.
Respect
your child's choices, opinions, and personal belongings give them two or more
options instead of imposing your authority on them, as well as giving children
negative nicknames, rejecting them and living as they please. Keep the
'behavior' to a minimum.
Connect
children with their positive family traditions so that they can feel strong and
proud of themselves, remember that recognizing and respecting children's
individuality will also teach them to respect the preferences of others.
2- Better Communication
A
good relationship is essential for self-confidence and communication is a basic
requirement for a good relationship. Really listen to your children because
children are not stupid and when you are pretending to listen they understand,
children will be able to talk to their parents/teachers only when children are
confident in giving their opinion. Communicate the rules and regulations of the
home/school to your children inappropriate words and accents and communicate
it to the children through your actions.
3- Expressing Love & Affection
Expressing
love and affection to your children/students, whether in the form of a series
of words or in the form of a hug, a pat on the head or any other physical
means is very important for self-confidence. Spend time each day, whether it's
for 15 or 20 minutes, focusing on the children's issues and events instead of
your own.
Avoid
conditions with expressions of love, express love with your behavior and words
even when they are not obeying you.
4 -
Encouragement
Praise
words and behaviors are a relatively complex process, sometimes parents/teachers
make the child emotionally sensitive by over-praising, the key principle of
praise and encouragement is to do it when you really want to. Do it when the child needs it. With this condition, the child is less likely to be encouraged
and praised, let the child know how happy you are with his or her
accomplishments, and give feedback on the child's unique abilities and
characteristics.
- Praise them for doing small chores around the house and avoid negative comments when they aren't.
- Don't compare children with other peers, siblings, etc. It is an indication that they can never be as good as them.
- Remember that it is not easy to instill self-confidence in children, however, parents will be able to build self-confidence in their children slowly but surely with their behavior and the above measures and tools.

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